Like any self-respecting (albeit then-closeted) queer girl, I became alert to “the actual L keyword,” Ilene Chaiken’s 2010-12 spin-off regarding the show that identified a generation of us in one single way or another. During the time the tv series broadcast, I found myselfn’t interested. It had nothing at all to do with my personal denial of my personal bisexual identity and every thing related to the fact I happened to be nevertheless pissed at Chaiken for performing

my personal lady Jenny Schecter

therefore extremely, really completely wrong in the season finale for the initial “The L term.”

Quickly ahead a decade once the homosexual stars aligned for me personally and I also discovered myself personally bingeing all three times in one single few days. Many facets added to the unconscious decision. One: I became in the house stretch of edits for my second queer YA book out in 2021 and I desperately needed mind candy. Two: Showtime struck up my email with a 30-day free trial, fundamentally the year of “Billions,” a show i’ve never observed. Three: Really, I Happened To Be interesting.

In older times, I became a faithful follower of “The Hills,” MTV’s entirely absurd, entirely addictive truth drama about fairly, hetero 20-somethings living in LA. “the true L phrase” had alike sun-drenched, sweet sense of escapism — only way, means,


gayer — plus with increased puppies and, starting in season two, an extremely adorable kitty. Positive, absolutely mess: phony drama which is clearly staged by manufacturers, plenty of real shouting in really packed organizations, and really, Romi. Nevertheless, “the actual L keyword” had most nutrients that kept me watching till the conclusion of Whitney and Sara’s huge gay wedding ceremony, instantly Googling exactly what every person’s doing nowadays, and following my faves on Insta (

hi, Kacy!

) — not forgetting dorkily dancing around my personal apartment to

that appealing theme song

. This is what I all of a sudden adored:

Good Coupling

Jill and Nikki are lovable as they squabble over a chandelier and preparing a marriage which wasn’t appropriate during the time but ended up being very important to them on an individual amount. Kacy and Cori hold on to the thought of an infant which may or may not appear, while never wavering in their love and help for 1 another. Tracy and Stamie work out how to balance work, sex, in addition to proper care of three lovable children — certainly who had special requirements. I completely appreciated the storylines of these three lovers navigating lesbian existence in a straight globe with each other. (and that I was actually securely group Jill in Chandelier-Gate. That thing was harmful!)

Pretty Smashing

At the start of season three, I becamen’t yes the way I felt about Kiyomi, the Hunter Valentine frontwoman whose way of training polyamory wasn’t precisely reasonable to the woman lover, Allie. Whenever Kiyomi met enviably pink-haired and pearly white-teethed Angeleno Lauren at Dinah Shore, however, all bets were off. Whenever they kissed from the garden, it had been adorable. Once they shyly gazed at one another and giggled during confessional interviews, it had been cuter. When Lauren could not avoid Kiyomi’s house of New York City for 1 more minute? Cutest.

Minutes With Moms

Take a look, we’re in
and I also neglect my personal
. This may explain precisely why it rained on my face each and every time an enjoying mother figure appeared. Whether it had been Jill yelling gladly whenever her mother made a shock visit to assist the girl choose a marriage outfit, Kacy’s mommy meeting her daughter for lunch and consoling her about baby Charlie, or Whitney’s grandmother witnessing Whitney’s garden Connecticut Wedding, I happened to be chaos, y’all. Let’s remember Francine coming out to the woman ultra-glam mommy Yoko, who immediately reacted “I adore love really you,” and Sadjah’s mother Sarita praising Sadjah’s Vote for Equality peers for living their particular reality.

I just genuinely believe that its beautiful available all to face up for your legal rights and battle for what you really, certainly believe in,” she claims.

Real, Alive Bisexuality!

Perform I adore how Chaiken handles bisexual figures and storylines? Not necessarily. But as a bi myself, I am starving for just about any as well as representation of my folks in the news (Spoiler: nevertheless not a large number!). Now, we’ll get everything I could possibly get, and I found it heartening to see Romi with boyfriends in the show’s 3rd period, along with the causing conversations of just how bi/queer/pansexual ladies frequently think excluded through the gay community all together. It really is rare i came across Romi relatable, but We relished this particular topic that continues to ben’t mentioned sufficient.

Claire. Enough mentioned.

Oh, Claire. She remaining the woman absolutely attractive girlfriend Vivian in New York to “start a lesbian web site” in Los Angeles — and shack up with ex Francine (estimate how good that final any went). She blithely refused an internship with “But I’m a Cheerleader” movie director and queer symbol Jamie Babbit. And she would drunkenly scream in groups. Claire was the undisputed


In 2010 two major player had been since sloppy as her ‘80s rock star-esque gothic shag, which is


what you would like in reality TV. Do not get myself completely wrong, I became keen on the quieter moments in “The Real L Word,” but Claire brought the pure dramz, and I also was right here because of it. (In addition, we was raised perhaps not far from her home town of St. Louis, so hell yeah for fellow weirdo Midwesterners!)

This Is Basically The Method In Which We Live

Bringing it back once again to “The L term” theme song everyone enjoyed: There still are not lots of shows, flicks, etc. about queer ladies


(chatting, chuckling, loving, breathing, etc.). Even when I was frustrated with Whitney’s pre-engagement user techniques, Sajdah and Chanel obtaining also significant too quickly and reading the millionth variation of “what exactly’s with both you and so-and-so,” we relished hanging out with queer ladies in numerous stages of the schedules, just calculating circumstances down. I cannot say We skip the days whenever unscripted shows controlled the airwaves, but “The Real L keyword” was actually well worth seeing, not only for club-screaming, chandelier-squabbling and broken keyboard-pouting (poor Somer), however for the major lady-loving lesbian energy.

Incentive: No one dies in a swimming pool.